Bondage is a key part of BDSM, which is a consensual practice where a partner is restrained to increase their sexual arousal. This can be accomplished in numerous ways, which range from ropes to bondage tape, cuffs, chains or bandages which are self-adhering. However, bondage should not be confused with sadomasochism.
The Origins of Bondage
Bondage has existed in various forms since antiquity. The purpose of tying up and restraining one’s sexual partner is to temporarily transfer power and control, which creates pleasure both for the submissive and dominant. Once a person is tied up, they are vulnerable, and this sensation of immobility and helplessness can create feelings of ecstasy, particularly when combined with other sexual fantasies or games.
Some couples also use bondage as a form of foreplay before sex. The paradox of bondage is that for some people, being tied up actually gives them feelings of liberation, as it allows them to focus on their internal spirituality, while others struggle against the bonds and derive pleasure from the restraint itself. Bondage is easy to apply and may be performed with common household materials or sophisticated commercial devices specifically designed for the purpose, and blindfolds may also be utilized to further heighten the experience.
Types of Bondage
Bondage comes in numerous forms, which include but are not limited to:
- Purposeful Bondage: This is perhaps the most famous type of bondage. It involves restraining one’s partner for specific reasons, like spankings, oral sex, manual sex, teasing or erotic tickling. It does not include bondage for the sake of bondage.
- Torture Bondage: This is the most extreme form of bondage. The partner will be intentionally restrained in a manner that is painful or uncomfortable, often as punishment during sexual play. However, it requires considerable experience on the part of the dominant to ensure the submissive isn’t badly injured, and both partners must trust each other.
- Meditation Bondage: This form of bondage is most popular in East Asia, especially Japan. It is performed more for spiritual than corporal reasons.
- Decoration Bondage: This type of bondage prioritizes aesthetics. The partner is bound as a type of decoration, and may be used as human furniture during BDSM parties or for the purposes of erotic photography.
- Film Bondage: This bondage will always be recorded on film, and the submissive may be tied up and then expected to figure out a way to escape their restraints.
Performing Bondage with European Escorts
A number of escorts in Europe offer Bondage and other BDSM services. Some of these ladies’ function as a professional dominatrix, who only offers BDSM and non-sexual services, while others provide both bondage and sex. Trust is incredibly important, as many escorts are wary of allowing themselves to be tied up by a client they just met. Both sides should get to know one another better and build a bond of trust before engaging in bondage, especially the more aggressive forms.